I would like to introduce you to a buddy of mine. He is a leader of sorts, a herder of kittens. He is a hard swearing Southerner. His accent is so thick you need a translator. He always has a smile on his face and surrounded by beautiful people. He understands a few things.
On a little picture our mutual friend posted, he gives some good advice. Indeed, I think it is pretty much aikido, with his own twist.
Meditate on the wisdom of Clovis.